Post by lisa on Aug 31, 2010 16:02:52 GMT -5
This is a brilliant song about the often neglected nursing home life of the elderly. While none of the band members are quite old enough to have to be in a nursing home, it does make us wonder why we allow ourselves to neglect the living... at any age. Please be kind to the elderly as they have the same life frequency as a child or a middle aged person. James cares.
Not sure how to take this. The picture painted in the song is very different to my, albeit limited, experience of nursing homes.
My nan went into a nursing home in June having been in hospitals since March. Prior to that, she'd holed herself up in her room for six months after having a fall out of bed. She refused to even consider going into a home, and at 90yrs old she said she'd rather throw herself down the stairs than do that. She only just about agreed to a carer coming in once a day. Nan near enough stopped eating and drinking because that means going to the toilet, which means getting out of bed or suffering the indignity of having an 'accident'. My parents were spending their retirement up there, proof indeed that she needed permanent care, but the stubborn sod wouldn't have it.
We effectively lost her up there. Before that fall shortly after her 90th, she was unbelievably active. Stripping wallpaper and moving furniture, always baking and gardening.
This lack of eating and drinking eventually brought on vascular dementure. The final fall in March led to her being taken to hospital, and eventually (around May) it was agreed that she didn't have the mental capacity to make decisions for herself hence couldn't turn down a nursing home. Only a few months earlier, she had 'passed' a mini-mental test as she could tell the social worker anything she asked about the 1940s, despite the fact that she couldn't recognise her great-grandchildren.
In the nursing home, she enjoyed three 'meals' a day, attemtion, her own space, assisting with care and various entertainment and activities. It was only when she was found unresponsive and tests showed her anaemia was gradually shutting her body down that she has been bed-ridden.
She's receiving terminal care from the nursing staff. Pain relief and comfort is all we/they can do now. Two weeks ago we, as a family, we asked to arrange a funeral director. She's still hanging on God love her. Nothing else can be done. I visit 3 times a week, sometimes she doesn't know me, sometimes she asks very relevant questions and sometimes she thinks I'm someone else.
She is living, but we have not "neglected" her by putting her in a nursing home. We've made her comfortable, which is all anyone can ask when you see your nearly-91 year old Nan move from a relatively healthy, spritely chatterbox into a 6 stone bag of bones whose body is slowly but surely shutting down.